Human being is created with a capacity and it is not expected from him to be faultless , sinless and perfect clear along his/her life. We are like the food plates. We get dirty and washed. Inability, poority, humility are good in the presence of Allah to crush ego then trusting Allah and patience on the straight path is required to crush self pity and complaints. The servant knows that he has a capacity and does as much as he can and seeks refuge to Allah when negativity starts creeping in:
Allah does not burden a soul except with what it can bear. For it is what it earns, and against it is what it earns. “Our Lord, do not mind us if we forget or make mistakes; our Lord, do not place a burden upon us as You have placed upon those before us; our Lord, do not place upon us what we cannot bear; pardon us, and forgive us, and have mercy on us; You are our patron, so grant us victory over the disbelieving people.” [Qur’an -Al-Baqara 2/286]
Allah does not want the human being to fall in negativity and give up progressing and cutting his hopes from Him by self-pity.
“iBLiS” is the name for the devil in the Qur’an. When we look in to the term “”BaLaS”in Arabic. ‘Balas’ means “causing despair”. In this case IBLIS is the one who causes despair by cutting the hopes of the people from the mercy of ALLAH. When the person cuts his hopes from the mercy of Allah, he will not show effort to walk on the path of Allah anymore and laziness will settle within his heart.
“He said: and who despairs of the mercy of his Lord, but such as go astray?”[ Qur’an Al-Hijr 15/56]
“Say: O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls. Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”[ Qur’an -Al-zumar- 39/53]
If self pity is replaced by regretting for one’s fault this will lead him to repentance . The minute the regretting starts, repentance step into the scene. Best repentance is the one enabling the servant not to repeat the same mistake again.
Complaining about the things in life can be eliminated as much as you can complete your tasks in this life. If the one learns knowledge, many things that he complains about will be meaningless to him and will stop doing it.”.
From morning to evening human being complains about any thing from the weather to the flying fly in the air. If it gets very hot or cold he swears to it. Anything which he/she does not like he/she curses. When the servant knows that the whole operating system , his mind and thoughts are in the control of Allah and it is Him who creates the things and defines laws (destiny) to operate, he/she will become more aware of these and give a big blow to the tree of complaints. Because the servant will know that everything is created by the will of ALLAH and blaming the things will cause blaming Allah. Although he is not going to remove the roots of complaints easily, understanding these issues will enable him to do his work. In shaa ALLAH.
“No misfortune can happen on earth or in your souls but is recorded in a decree before We bring it into existence: that is truly easy for Allah:
In order that ye may not despair over matters that pass you by, nor exult over favours bestowed upon you. For Allah loveth, not any vainglorious boaster,”[ Qur’an Al-Hadid 57/22-23]
Allah’s aim is not to torment us or to put us in hell but we ourselves put ourselves in hell in this world and hereafter by not making any effort to understand what he is telling to us, by not changing our selves in good way. We sizzle like the food in the saucepan in this world. Can’t we see that creasing on our clothes are gone when we do ironing. We do this ironing for good. Our cloth is our attributes, if we upset each other, lie, cheat, hurt the others, We get bad attributes then our cloths become dirty, worn and discolored, we wear wrinkled and dirty clothes. That is why Allah said to prophet Muhammad, ” keep your cloth clean” Weeping to Allah during the prayer opens the wrinkles and cleanses the cloth. It brings the good attributes to you and your cloth becomes nice. Don’t We feel nice in a clean and nice cloth? That is why we feel relax, clean and peaceful after crying whenever we pray…